Old fashioned virtue?
Since I was a very young girl I have admired graciousness. I don't think I knew what it was but I remember paying attention to the difference between grouchiness and graciousness. I did wonder later on if it was a character trait for nobility since it was often labeled that way.
Now in middle age I admire it even more. It shares space in a list that includes politeness. Very cheap insurance along the way to non violent being. Learned while contemplating the steps from reacting to responding during ordinary days. An antidote to snark/sarcasm.
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